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Dear Friends,
WHAT’S NEW? Do you need to be liked, loved, appreciated, validated, seen, or heard? Good question! In this weeks newsletter I am putting the focus on the things we do to satisfy our inner child’s need to be loved – something that drives us subconsciously to take actions in our lives that can only produce limiting outcomes. So please read the article below and don’t forget to post a comment!
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If you’ve always wanted to visit the sacred ruins of Angkor Wat AND have the opportunity to give of yourself in service – then our journey to Cambodia Jan 30th is the perfect experience for you. Nothing is better for diminishing the ego than opening your heart and volunteering. Time to register is NOW!
**Last of all, I’m looking for folks to ask me a question that I can answer on video!
If I choose YOUR question to answer I will send you a gift! ♥
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OUR FEATURED JOURNEY/RETREAT:
Chichen Itza: Shamanic Healing Techniques in the Heart of the Mayan Lands
May 17-22, 2012
Join author and Shaman Ernesto Ortiz for this powerful retreat to Chichen Itza, Mexico! The Shamanic Journey is an ancient but eternally relevant way to contact the timeless reality that exists parallel to and just out of sight of the world we so mistakenly call “reality.”
It is in our everyday “reality” that we experience the reflection of who we believe we are, of our deepest beliefs, our “dream” – but it is in the non-manifest world of the spirit that the hidden causal interactions are formed. Hidden that is, until we begin to open the doors and “see” with expanded vision, with the eyes of a Shaman.
Through Shamanism we can tap into a vast fund of ancient timeless knowledge which can be utilized anywhere, under any conditions. We can heal the effects of past traumas, and practice living in an inner state of balance and harmony while dealing with the challenges and vicissitudes of life.
You’ll learn: Soul Retrieval & Power Animal Retrieval techniques, medicine bundle & medicine wheel teachings, and so much more! Optional Ayahuasca Plant Medicine Ceremony too! We’ll be staying at the Hotel Oka’an Retreat Center located in the jungle of Chichen Itza near the pyramids nestled in the midst of the mystical energy that supports transformation and initiation.
Trip cost is: $1855.00 USD double occupancy, all meals included. Details for Chichen Itza here.
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~ 5 Ways to Create Balance in Your Life & 2 Ways to Stay Juicy! ~
Part of our NEW FREE video-class series
Calling all overworked women and over committed women!
- Do you find yourself feeling on edge, cranky and impatient?
- Are you walking into the kitchen for your second quart of ice cream in an hour?
- Do you feel tired, overwhelmed, and dried out?
On this fun and empowering video, Sheri Rosenthal will be chatting with Shanti Gilbert; artist, teacher and retreat leader! You’ll learn how to get clear on what is causing imbalance in your life and how to identify when you are out of alignment. Shanti will be sharing tools you can use to re-structure your life and some great ideas to keep staying juicy! The bottom line is feeling like yourself again so you can live the life you truly desire.
BTW: Shanti has TWO women’s retreats for 2012:
Delray, FL: Honoring & Healing the Goddess Within! – February 9–12, 2012, & her
Sedona: Goddess Healing Spiritual Retreat – April 29-May 4th, 2012.
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FEATURED ARTICLE
DO YOU LIKE ME (please like me, please….)?
You might be wondering, why is Sheri asking that question? That’s not like her to be concerned whether or not she’s liked. And of course you would be correct, but it wasn’t always like that. Many of us say; “Oh I don’t care if anyone likes me” – but we are saying it as a mental position – not as a way of life. I can say this with certainty having experienced this personally for a good part of my life! I used to say I didn’t care out of defiance and to protect myself from being hurt, not because I was strong in my self-love.
When we are unaware of our need to be liked, loved, appreciated, validated, seen, or heard – we take on certain behaviors that create issues in our lives. Even more problematic is that we end up projecting our needs on others demanding that they fulfill them in our unawareness – rather than resolving our inner child’s neediness with our own self-love.
If your inner child carries any of these needs you will always want others to treat you a certain way or you will feel hurt, disappointed or upset. Certainly it is wonderful if the people in your life are aware of your issues and cater to them – however that is not their job. Their job is to communicate clearly and kindly to the best of their ability (understanding that they have issues too) and to deal with themselves just like you need to deal with yourself.
So how can we tell if we have the deep-seated need to be liked, loved, appreciated, validated, seen, or heard? Let’s take a few minutes to get clear on this! For each of the behaviors listed below, understand that we are always looking to confirm that we are not worthy of being liked, loved, appreciated, validated, seen, or heard because that’s the core wound of our inner child! In other words our actions (driven subconsciously) prove to us again and again that we are not lovable as our subconscious fears are creating the very outcomes we want to avoid.
- You don’t take the actions you know you need to (at work, at home, to create your business or dream)…
(because you are worried about what other will think about you). - You don’t do what you really want to because you are afraid of failing…
(and hearing others saying I told you so). - You won’t set clear and firm boundaries with others…
(you don’t want to be the bad guy or “hurt others” – because you want to look good) - You are a martyr, sacrificing yourself and what you want to do in your life for others…
(this way they will see how wonderful and worthy of love you are). - You repeat yourself in your communications feeling like people are not hearing you…
(no matter how carefully they listen or validate you it will never be enough). - You work yourself to the bone hoping that people realize your worth…
(once they see how wonderful I am they will finally appreciate and love me). - You behave unpleasantly in social situations to get attention (even against your own will)…
(I’ll make them notice me and realize I am worthy of attention). - You are always touting the good job you have done so you get compliments from folks…
(can you see how wonderful I am and what a good job I can do?). - You need to be the center of attention in a group situation…
(you take over a conversation and start entertaining folks so they can see how great you are). - You have to be number one in your personal relationships even when that is not reasonable (you marry a partner who you know is dedicated to their children or work)…
(you create constant drama to be #1 cementing into place your belief that you are not worthy of love). - You always are trying to get the people in your life to prove their love to you (and it is never enough)…
(again confirming that you are not worthy of love).
This list is in no way exhaustive, but at least it is a start – a place to begin to evaluate what we are creating in our life and why. When we create from self-love and awareness we do not need anything in life, we are here to serve and give with an open heart. We are not trying to get anything.
The funny thing about living our life this way is that we end up getting everything even if we aren’t looking for it. When we are coming from neediness we never get the love we crave because no amount of external love, approval or validation can fill the inner child’s void. Only ourselves as divine love can fill our own void.
So next time when you are saying that you don’t care what people think about you – take a moment to evaluate if that is really truth and where you are honestly coming from. If any of the above behaviors are creating havoc in your life – consider taking advantage of the special Clarity Sessions that I am offering until the end of this year.
In 90 minutes you can have a clear understanding of what you are doing and why, and a game plan for making a definitive changes in your life. What a relief it is to not have to be suffering your own programming and to be able to make different choices in your life! Do take advantage of this opportunity to live that purpose in every moment, love boldly and with all your integrity!
With all my love & best wishes, Sheri
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OUR MENU OF UPCOMING FABULOUS ADVENTURES!
~HEART-OPENING DECEMBER TRAVELS~
PALENQUE, MEXICO: A Shamanic Portal to 2012
Trip Leaders: Fu-Ding Cheng & Linda Jacobson
Dec 8-13th, 2011
~HEART-WARMING JANUARY ADVENTURES~
ANGKOR WAT, CAMBODIA: Unconditional Love in Action
Trip Leader: David Ault
January 30 – February 9th, 2012
~REFRESHING FEBRUARY RETREATS~
DELRAY, FL: Honoring & Healing the Goddess Within!
Trip Leader: Shanti Gilbert
February 9–12, 2012
~SUCCULENT MARCH VOYAGES~
MAR DE JADE, MEXICO: Trance Dance – Opening the Chakras to the Energies of 2012
Trip Leader: Ernesto Ortiz
March 3-10th, 2012
EGYPT: Remembrances, Exploring the Mysteries
Trip Leader: Samvedam Randles
March 8-18th, 2012
AGUA NICARAGUA: Soul*Full Sisters – Spirituality & Photography by the Sea
Trip Leader: Catherine Just & Sheri Rosenthal
March 29-Apr 3, 2012
~ENLIGHTENING APRIL TRAVELS~
TEOTIHUACAN, MEXICO: Skanda Yoga Retreat – Portals of Power!
Trip Leaders: Ken von Roenn III & Lina Vallejo
April 11-18th, 2012
SEDONA: Goddess Healing Spiritual Retreat
Trip Leader: Shanti Gilbert
April 29-May 4th, 2012
~MAGICAL MAY SOJOURNS~
CHICHEN ITZA: Shamanic Healing Techniques in the Heart of the Mayan Lands NEW!
Trip Leader: Ernesto Ortiz
May 17-22, 2012
~JOY-FILLED JUNE JAUNTS~
SACRED BRITAIN: A Women’s Sacred Journey to Avalon NEW!
Trip Leader: Sheri Rosenthal & Cameron Broughton
June 14-22nd, 2012
~GLORIOUS JULY JOURNEYS~
ISLA ESPIRITU SANTO, Baja, Mx: Baja Mexico: Sisterhood, Sand & Sun! NEW!
Trip Leader: Sheri Rosenthal
July 1-7, 2012
~AUDACIOUS AUGUST ADVENTURES~
COSTA RICA: Raising Empowered, Radiant Daughters: Mother/Daughter Retreat! NEW!
Trip Leaders: Katherine Woodward Thomas & Miriam Martineau
August 5-11th, 2012
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I guess its always been up to me too feel good enough. Its always up to me..
So it is coming from a place of neediness to be validated with respect or told the truth from someone is what you are saying. Because if I remember correctly you saying that people are going to do what they want too do. So reducing my wants to nothing. And not having expectations is practicing self love or self respect. Because those are just agreements made that we can look at if this serves us or not? I enjoy when someone gives pleasure. I read what you are saying when you mentioned “(understanding that they have issues too) and to deal with themselves just like you need to deal with yourself.” It feels really good when that child inside of me “scrappy do” has a partner that wants to work on things and share and create pleasure. I realize, but I do enjoy your input that seeking for validation from a outside source isn’t conditional. It isn’t helping shape me. The feeling that scrappy do feels when he is “done dirty” (judgement) is like when a kid feels like he isn’t good enough. I cleaned my room, took out trash, did my siblings chores and still all I want is for you to like me please. Wouldn’t you like someone who wanted nothing but to share pleasure with you?
Dear J,
I’m not saying to reduce your wants to nothing. You can have many desires/wants in this world – but when you have a desire and you expect a particular outcome – now you have a problem! Also for me there is a difference between wants and needs. I can want anything but I only need food, water and shelter. When you make a want into a need you are setting yourself up for trouble – that is your inner child saying that you NEED to be validated and of course this is not a need it is a want. And just because we want something doesn’t mean we are going to get it. That is why I said you can have many wants – but the problem is your EXPECTATION that those wants are going to be fulfilled. It is important to go through life with no expectations NOT with no desires. You can desire anything as long as you do so without expectation. Feel free to dream big and go for it knowing you never know how anything in life is going to turn out.
Blessings & love, Sheri xoxoxo